Long Distance Relationships

Mpunza,H.E, Extension Educator

Remember how you felt on your first date with your spouse? The dimples, the smile, the special qualities that melted your heart? How do you feel today? Hopefully, there are characteristics that still warm your heart when you think of your spouse. How do you turn up the thermostat and continually build the fire?
It is important to remember that marriage is a process. Each individual will change, and in turn, so will the relationship. Through the years, growth will take place as you invest trust, commitment, skills, caring, reciprocity, and effort. The love between two people ideally creates the wish to give of yourself to your spouse. It becomes a way of communication or interaction that will be challenged throughout your life together. A strong marriage doesn’t just happen, it takes time and energy to have a strong, healthy relationship.

Eight Qualities for a Successful Marriage
How can you foster growth in your marriage? By taking a look at what others have identified as traits that are desirable in a marriage, you can take steps to strengthen your own. The late David Mace, a well-known marriage counselor, identified eight qualities necessary for a successful marriage. These eight qualities are:
• The spouses respect each other.
• They meet crises successfully.
• They are loyal and faithful to each other.
• They reinforce and support each other.
• They are truthful and open with each other.
• They share the same basic values.
• They are mutually affectionate.
• They share the same goals.

Long Distance Relationships
Relationships are hard enough to foster when you have a regular schedule. However, when one person is gone for an extended period of time due to attending school, military service, or their job, then the time spent together becomes vital to strengthen their commitment to each other. In situations when the amount of time spent together is limited, it is easy to forget the building qualities of relationships and focus on the urgent items like, “Where do I get the car fixed?” and spending time with the children or figuring out how to pay the bills.

How Do You Enrich the Relationship With Your Limited Time Together?
There are many ways to show your love and affection. With each new stage, old and new skills will be needed to make the most of your relationship. Here is a list of ideas that were gathered from some research conducted with truck drivers and their spouses concerning their relationships. Many of these couples were separated for two to three weeks at a time. Read through their suggestions and see which ones might be of help to you in strengthening your relationship.
• Keep lines of communication open. Be specific, honest, and detailed in conversations. Talk about how you will communicate when you are apart.
• Be understanding and patient; your plans may not always work. Keep at it until you refine the process and it works for each of you.
• Trust each other unconditionally; don’t submit to media fantasies and unfaithful attitudes. Express your love and respect to each other on a regular basis.
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• When together, delegate chore time and expectations; don’t criticize each other for the way situations were handled; make plans for how to deal with issues the next time they arise.
• If phone calls are not possible, record daily conversations and send them home. Send e-mails, but remember to be realistic about response time.
• Send cards, post cards, and letters home frequently. Send them to each member of the home, maybe in the same envelope, so everyone gets a letter or note that says you are remembering them.
• Be supportive in hard times. It’s not so much that you say the right thing, but that you are willing to listen, hold your spouse, and be there.
• Show affection in appropriate situations and maintain a tender, loving connection.
• Show appreciation for each other for the jobs you do while apart.
How do you find ways to strengthen your marriage when there’s so little time to invest? Make it a priority to think about the good things, the positive side, and ways to enhance your love. In 52 Tokens of Affection, Lynn Gordon suggests simple ways to highlight your feelings. Read through them to get started thinking of ways to enrich your marriage. After reading them, make another list of things that you and your spouse can do to encourage your commitment to each other.

Idea Starters
• Make a relationship almanac. In a notebook jot down anything you enjoy together. Watch how it grows over the years. As one spouse travels, have them send information about places to return to together and particular interests you might enjoy.
• Leave messages, thoughts, quotes, or romantic poems in everyday places like jacket pockets, the book you are reading, or the glove box of the vehicle.
• Surprise your spouse by secretly doing a couple of things on the “honey-do” list. While it may not seem romantic, you’re improving the quality of their life in a little way.
• Read a book together. You each have a copy and enjoy conversation on the other’s progress and interpretation of the text.
• Make a list of things you both find romantic and write them on a sheet of paper. Cut the list apart and put them in a special basket or tin. Each time you are together, enjoy at least one romantic moment.
• When they arrive home, treat your spouse with breakfast in bed with a love note. Let them know how much you missed them.
• Write your spouse’s name on a manila folder or envelope. As you come across interesting articles and enticing restaurant reviews, cut them out and tuck them inside for impromptu moments together.
Marriage is like life; it will have its ups and downs. During the times it doesn’t feel so romantic, think about all the good times. Look at old pictures, listen to your favorite love songs, and remember the special reasons you made a commitment to one another. Working on the way you feel has the ability to transform not only yourself but your spouse too.

Sources
Beckham, K. (1992). Choice, not chance: Enhancing your marital relationship. Bulletin 832. Columbus: Ohio State University Extension.
Gordon, L. (1994). 52 tokens of affection. GiftWorks Chronicle Books.
Hill, M., Hudson, N., Lantz, B., & Griffin, G. (1997). Commercial vehicle driver associate family issues assessment. Upper Great Plains Transportation Institute, Publication Number 115.
Jarosik, E., & Green, E. (1992). Family life, process and practice. Boston: Jones and Bartlett Publishers.
Mace, D. R. (1982). Close companions: The marriage enrichment handbook. New York: Continuum.
Military OneSource. Dealing with deployment: Quick tips for keeping a strong relationship during deployment [On-line]. Available: www.militaryonesource.com
Riggs, B. (1990). Marriage and Family Review. The Haworth

THE UNIVERSITY OF DODOMA

Complementary Training for

Undergraduate Students

INVITATION FOR REGISTRATION

Background

The University of Dodoma (UDOM) in collaboration with the Education Committee of the Egyptian African Company and the Egyptian – East African Business Council have the desire to implement a Complementary Training Programme to undergraduate students commencing October 2012. The Programme aims at enhancing soft skills that will be required at the workplace. Generally, the skills are not directly taught in the academic curriculum. Moreover, due to students’ limited budgets, students cannot afford to attend such programmes in specialised institutions.

The overall objective is to prepare our graduates for the job market both locally and internationally. Successful implementation will enable both local and foreign business companies to employ our local talents instead of recruiting from foreign labour markets.

Nature of Programmes

Focus will be on various skills building  themes, including: Communication skills; Writing proposals and reports; Business ethics; Business etiquette; Mastering the interview; Public speaking; and Management; etc. They will be offered at different times of the year, especially during weekends to avoid interruption with normal classes.

First Programme

·               Theme: Communication skills

·               Dates: From 27^th to 28^th October 2012

·               Venue: The University of Dodoma, College of Informatics and Virtual Education, Lecture Room No. 19.

·               Fee: No payment is required.

·               Award: Certificate of Attendance will be awarded.

·               Who qualifies: Final year students in any of the six Colleges of UDOM.

·               Registration: Interested Final Year Students should confirm their interest in writing by sending an email to: dosudom@ymail.com. The following particulars must be given: Full name as in the Students Identification Card; Students Registration Number; and Name of Degree Programme

·               Number of participants: The First Programme will accommodate 310 students only. Thus, students will be registered on First- Come First Served Basis.

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MCHANGANUO WENYEWE HUKO HIVI .
1.ADA/ TUITON FEES (HII INATOLEWA KWA GRADE NDIO INA ASILIMIA SASA)
2.MEALS AND ACCOMODATIONS/ CHAKULA NA MALAZI/ BOOM (HII NI FLAT RATE KWA WOTE WANAOPATA MKOPO KUANZIA ASILIMIA YA CHINI KABISA MPAKA ASILIMIA 100% HII NDIO PESA MNAPEWA WOTE SAWA)- NASIKIA SIKU HIZI NI SH 7500/=
3. STATIONARY AND BOOKS ALLOWANCES/ VITABU NA STATIONARI( HII NAYO NI FLAT RATE HAINA PERCENT )
4.PRACTICAL TRAINING/ TEACHING PRACTICES( WANAITA HELA YA FIELD HII INA PERCENT KUTEGEMEA NA GRADE UTAKOPATA) NA HII KUNA BAADHI YA KOZI HUWA SINAANZA FILED KUANZIA MWAKA WA KWANZA..
5. SPECIAL FACULTY REQUIREMENT( KUNA BAADHI YA KOZI HUWA WANAPEWA HII PESA KWA AJILI YA VITENDEA KAZI KAMA DRAWING BOARD CALCULATOR NK
6. PROJECT/ RESEARCH ( HII HUWA WANAPEWA WATU FINAL YEAR I.E 3RD YEAR , 4TH YR N.K

USHAURI
TUMIA HUU MCHANGUNUO KUFANYA HESABU .. NI HESABU RAHISI SANA YA MAGAZIJUTO

IMPORTANT NOTICE TO BOTH FIRST YEAR AND CONTINUING STUDENTS
2012/2013 ACCADEMIC YEAR

All students are required to note that:

1. All students are required to register with the NATIONAL HEALTH INSURANCE FUND (NHIF)

2. University of Dodoma Students Organisation (UDOSO) fee is 5,000/= per student per year.

3. UDOSO fee MUST be paid by ALL STUDENTS in CRDB Bank:

Account number: - 01J2083321200

Account name: - UDOSO FEDERATION

Please DO NOT pay UDOSO fee in any other Account (Only UDOSO fee is payable in this account).

4. In order to avoid unnecessary queue (long lines in the bank) you are all urged to pay all the required fees before coming to Dodoma.

5. You will be required to show proof of payments (Bank pay-in-slip) during registration.

6. Make sure you write your names on the Bank pay-in-slip.

What is "The University of Dodoma Students Organization" UDOSO

"The University of Dodoma Students Organization" (UDOSO) is a students association of which all students are automatically members by registration. The UDOSO Office is under the mentorship of the Office of Dean of Students. The Organization is an important link between students and the university management. The organization contributes in decision making on matters that affect students welfare, social activities, games and sports entertainment.

Main aims of UDOSO include:

To ensure academic and social well-being of UDOM students

To liaise with other Universities for exchange of ideas, knowledge and experiences so as to be aware of what is happening globally.

To represent students in the University participatory organs.

ANNOUNCEMENT TO CANDIDATES SELECTED TO JOIN FIRST YEAR STUDIES DURING ACADEMIC YEAR 2012/2013

          The University of Dodoma will commence its First Semester for 2012/13 academic year on          13^thOctober 2012.

         The venue for Reporting and Reception of First Year students will be the Jamhuri Stadium starting from 8 am – 6 pm.

         Orientation week will begin on Monday 15^th October 2012. Students are requested therefore,

         to report according to the dates indicated for their respective Colleges:

Sn	COLLEGES	DATE
1.	College of Education (COED) College of Health Sciences (CoHS) College of Informatics and Virtual Education (CIVE)	Saturday, 13th October 2012
2.	College of Earth Sciences (COES) College of Humanities and Social Sciences College of Natural and Mathematical Sciences	Sunday, 14th October 2012

         On reporting, each student shall be required to present the following documents:

1. ORIGINAL Form 4 certificate
2. ORIGINAL Form 6 certificate (except those who completed in 2012, result slips will be accepted)
3. ORIGINAL Birth certificate (Affidavits will not be accepted).
4. Bank payment receipts for Tuition and Direct costs (includes accommodation)

RECEPTION ANNOUNCEMENT TO CONTINUING STUDENTS FOR ACADEMIC YEAR 2012/2013

         The University of Dodoma will commence its First Semester classes for 2012/13 academic year          on 22^nd October 2012.

         The venue for Reporting and Reception of ALL CONTINUING students will be the Jamhuri Stadium starting from 8 am – 6 pm.

         Students are requested therefore to report according to the dates indicated for their respective Colleges:

Sn	COLLEGES	DATE
1.	College of Education (COED) College of Health Sciences (CoHS) College of Informatics and Virtual Education (CIVE)	Saturday, 20th October 2012
2.	College of Earth Sciences (COES) College of Humanities and Social Sciences College of Natural and Mathematical Sciences	Sunday, 21st October 2012

On reporting, each student shall be required to present the following documents:

1. Bank payment receipts for Tuition and Direct costs (includes accommodation)

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